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I’m tired of opinions. Modesty isn’t an opinion.
Imagine a guy that knew how the female mind worked. A guy that knew that even the most innocent glance at a girl could make her heart go wild. A guy that knew that girls are led on quite easily, who knew that girls are easily jealous, and knew that girls make assumptions more than they make sandwiches. A guy that knew that even the smallest gestures could make a girl the happiest she’s ever been.
Wouldn’t that be wonderful? The world would be a much better place.
Well, imagine it the other way around. Imagine that a guy meets a girl, and she knew exactly how his mind worked. She knew just the things that messed with his mind, and she knew to avoid them. She knew how to make him feel like a man, without messing with his physical state. She knew how to respect him, and to keep his mind pure.
Neither one of these situations are very realistic, are they? I personally know a guy like the first example. He is incredible. And I have more respect for him than for anyone else I know, really.
But how many girls are like the second example? Not many. Basically none.
Modesty is a huge debate in today’s day. People can’t decide on a general term for “modesty”; everyone has their own opinion, and everyone has their own thought on what “modesty” really is.
Well guess what. Modesty isn’t what you think is modest. What’s modest in your eyes could be slutty in someone else’s eyes. So modesty cannot be based on what you think. IT CANNOT.
It needs to be based on facts.
But how many young ladies know the facts? Again, not many. So I’ll give you some links and information for you to be able to find out.
GOOD READS:
- The Rebelution Modesty Study
- Set Apart Femininity by Leslie Ludy
- Fierce Beauty by Kim Meeder
- For Young Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn (strongly suggest)
GOOD VIDS:
- What Guys Think About Modesty (strongly suggest)
- Men’s View on Modesty
- The Naked Truth About Modesty
Now, that last video was a little intense because of what they suggest for girls to wear and how to act… But it’s just a point of view.
Girls, do you understand how uncomfortable you make a guy when you’re dressed immodestly? If they’re trying to keep a pure mind, and you’re wearing a bikini right in front of them, it’s such a battle.
The most common reaction when girls hear what guys think about them is, “Ew, oh my goodness, what’s wrong with you!? Learn some self control.”
No. That’s not how you react to that. It’s your fault.
If youdress like an immodest person, then it implies that you want guys to think about you in that way. You dress in super low cut tops and short mini skirts, and then when a guy reacts naturally, you criticize him.
He’s not the one that chose to do something that would cause a situation like that. You were.
There are several passages in the Bible to back up this plea for modesty.
1 Timothy 2:9-10 says;
“… that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation [with self-respect], not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. (NKJV)
You profess that you’re a Christian young lady. Act like it. God calls His princesses to be modest.
Matthew 9:42 gets even more intense;
“But if you cause one of these little ones who trusts in me to fall into sin, it would be better for you to be thrown into the sea with a large millstone hung around your neck.” (NLT)
If you’re causing a Christian young man to struggle with his thoughts because of something that you’re wearing — whether you think it’s modest or not — you’re in serious trouble.
“Never do anything that might make other people do wrong—Jews, non-Jews, or anyone in God’s church.” 1 Corinthians 10:32 (ERV)
I only wish you ladies would understand what you put guys through when you dress immodestly.
Just to put this into perspective for you girls: if a guy thinks over something three times, it has the same effects on him both physically and mentally as if he had actually done it.If you chose not to read the suggested things from above, let me recap for you. Guys minds automatically fill in the gaps. If you’re wearing a strapless dress, they see bare shoulders and automatically imagine the rest of you to be just as bare. If you’re wearing something with holes at the stomach or in the back, they’ll imagine the rest of you just as hole-y. If you’re wearing skin-tight jeans, you might as well be wearing nothing at all. And if your shirt comes down to your navel, just don’t even bother putting it on.
I’m not asking you to wear an abaya — although they are quite beautiful — but I am asking you to consider your wardrobe. Wear a tank-top underneath your favorite shirt next time. Or wear some cute leggings under a skirt.
Remember the example from the beginning. Imagine how much you could bless your fellow brothers in Christ if you just understood. Imagine how much they would respect you for respecting them.
Abusing God’s power.
I love it when people come to me with prayer requests. I really do. I love praying for people.
But when you come to me asking me to pray that you can get these One Direction tickets, I’m sorry, but I won’t be praying that that happens for you.
Instead, I’ll be praying that God opens your eyes to what really matters and what prayer really is.
Prayers aren’t wishes.
